How One Advertisement Made Me Realize: Same Childhood, Different Dreams.

The day before yesterday, I saw an advertisement. I don’t remember exactly what that advertisement was about, but it has completely gone into my mind. Maybe you have seen it too.

Some boys and girls were asked — point to be noted — young boys and girls. They were asked to run like a girl.

Then all of them showed the same actions. Very shy types, a fancy kind of run, as if there was no strength in the body at all.

And next they were asked to do some sports-related actions, again all of them did the same It’s heavy, shy, “this is difficult” type of actions.

And then, on the other side, 4–5 small girls (around 10–12 years old) were called, and they were also asked the same questions.

“Run like a girl” — and those girls ran very fast, putting in all their strength.

Then they were also asked to do some sports actions. And those small girls did the same actions just like an athlete would — with full strength, properly.

After watching this ad, everyone must have understood something.

But maybe I had noticed something like this before.

How Society Quietly Changes Boys & Girls Thinking.

I always used to think something like that, and after watching this ad, the same thought came into my mind, and my misunderstanding got cleared.

When we all friends used to play together in childhood, everything was normal. Boys and girls — everyone had dreams, everyone respected those dreams, everyone could relate to each other. Everything felt normal, and it actually was common.

But today… if you ask any girl about her life, she will say the same thing — to get married into a good family and enjoy life with her husband. And these have become her dreams after completing her education. To dream about her marriage.

That’s it. These are the only dreams left for those girls who, in childhood, used to think only about studies, playing, homework, teachers, school and sports.

And the same boys—who have been their friends since childhood—also accept this and believe it.

They don’t find anything abnormal in the fact that at the age when boys are building their careers and focusing fully on their education, their female friends are becoming mothers.

For them, it feels completely normal. They even have a ready answer: “A girl’s life is supposed to be like this. It’s very common.”

And honestly, they are not completely wrong.

Around me, almost 50% of girls have the same dream—that career can happen later, but marriage is the most important thing. Career can be figured out afterwards.

But at the same time, 100% of the boys around me are first building their careers. Only after that do they think about marriage.

For them, without a career, there is no question of marriage at all.

What One Advertisement Revealed About Gender Mindset.

See… the same girls who, in childhood, used to play with those boys, compete with them, and study with them… Just like those boys had dreams back then, these girls also used to dream in the same way.

But in the process of growing up, this society, this environment, slowly changed those little girls’ dreams. And not just changed them—turned everyone’s dreams into the same thing : marriage.

And their same male friends never find this strange.

Because as they were growing up, even their thinking about girls was shaped by the same society in the same way.

“Now that she has grown up, marriage.
Chalo, our sister has grown up, now her marriage.
Chalo, our friend has grown up, now marriage.
The girl next door has grown up, hmm now your turn is next, get ready for marriage.”

I had also experienced something like this once — we were all watching my friend’s wedding video, and at that time a boy from our neighborhood came, who was 4 years older than me, and he said to me — “hmm, now it’s your turn to get married, get ready.”

At first, I felt like punching him hard on his nose and then hitting him with a bat on his back again and again.

But then I came out of my thoughts and controlled my anger.

however was it really his fault that he asked me such a question? And are those girls at fault who, after growing up, start dreaming only about marriage?

Or is it something in this environment, in this society, that slowly shapes every boy’s and girl’s thinking in the same way—

if you are a boy, then first career, then marriage; and if you are a girl and have grown up, then first only marriage, and career doesn’t matter that much, it will happen anyway, and even if it doesn’t, it’s fine for girls.

I Was Wrong About Girls – Until This Advertisement Changed Everything.

At first, I used to think that it was the girls’ fault who focused more on marriage than education or career.

But now, after watching that advertisement, I understood that it is not the girls’ fault at all.

It is the society and the environment they live in that slowly changes them, changes their thoughts.

Both boys and girls are shaped by it, and they don’t even realize it.